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(44 People Likes) Can money really buy happiness? If yes, then how and if not, then what can bring happiness?
for short bursts of time.
If you think about it, it’s really the spending of money that creates that momentary happiness. I found I had to keep buying things to feel good.
And that’s the thing: With money (even a lot) I only experienced bursts of happiness.
Then the excitement of the new thing would fade, or the experience I’d bought would end, and I’d be left facing my life and what I’d been avoiding by spending my money. Nothing had really changed.
I was the same person, with most of the same issues and challenges.
For me, buying one thing after another in order to feel better about life or about myself is no way to live! It feels very empty and pointless after a while.
So…what can bring happiness?
My answer may not be what you want to hear. If so, I’m sorry for that.
But here’s the good news…
We don’t have to achieve anything or attain anything—especially money—before we can feel genuine, deep happiness!
In truth, our happiness is always available to us, no matter what our circumstances. All we need to do is want to feel that way and then know how to access it.
We can let the happiness that is in us come out. Today. Even right now. We can get in touch with more of our naturally “happy state” by using a couple of tools (below) and also adding a couple of other things.
So, here are four suggestions. I’d put these things at the top of my list for anyone who wants to start feeling happier and be able to access their happiness anytime they want…
Being grateful for who you are and what you have now. We make ourselves unhappy by constantly comparing what we have with what we want. Or who we are with who we want to be. That comparison keeps us locked in our current situation and current state. We benefit by learning to be grateful for what is right now.
Spend some time breathing deeply and feeling grateful for all the wonderful experiences you’ve had. And the friends you’ve made. And the many small things about you that you like now. And what you possess that you’re grateful for.
Breathe and be grateful for being alive. For the sunset. For the air you breathe. For the food you have. Breathe and feel your appreciation for those things and anything else that comes to mind.
In each case, really feel your gratitude. Feel how grateful you are.
Being more in the moment. Instead of focusing on the future (and worrying about it or yearning for it being better) we benefit from living in this moment more fully. Life happens in this moment. And now this moment. And now this moment. It doesn’t happen in the future or the past. Only this moment is real. And so happiness is much more easily felt when we settle in in this moment and just be with it.
Take a deep breath or two and let yourself relax every muscle. Repeat. Repeat again.
Now feel the difference. Your mind has probably calmed down a bit. You’re more centered. You’re more aware and alert. That is being more present.
(If that is not your experience as you do that, don’t give up. Practice it until you feel those things. Every moment of practice is truly worth it!)
When you’re very present life feels complete and good. You feel complete and good (happy). It’s almost magical how it can feel.
Stop making yourself do things because you think you “should” and do more of what you love as often as you can.
Shoulds are traps. We think they’ll get us where we want to go but usually they are leading us away from a better, shorter course to our happiness.
How many things do you believe your must or should do feel good? Which of those make you happy when you do them? Probably very few.
See if you can open more to trusting yourself to find your own way without those shoulds. Get present (see above) and ask yourself “What would I like?” Sure, it might take work and time to get there—most things of value do—but if you are passionate about what you want you’ll have a strong desire to succeed and you’re a lot more likely to get there than by doing things you think you should.
Don’t try to make it on your own. Have a few close relationships in which you feel loved and safe. Invite people you like into your life, including parents. Find friends whom you have special relationships with and nurture those. Be willing to feel your “like” or love for those people. They will be part of your network and will support you as
(76 People Likes) How can I purchase a silicone love doll in India without getting caught?
men clean themselves up. You will have to clean this thing up, and it is gross, and tedious, and you could just jerk off far more easily and conveniently for free! Also, they don’t exactly move like real women do, if you get what I mean. You can pose them, but they don’t move at all. So, if the idea of necrophilia turns you on, then go for it! But if not, years later, you’ll look at all of the years wasted that should have been spent with a good woman, and you’ll feel the same way about your crappy home since you’ve only ever been able to rely on your own income for your mortgage, or more likely, rent. All of us men have certain needs, and yes, the doll May
(77 People Likes) Is going to brothels or sex dolls the cure for single men and chronic loners?
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(83 People Likes) Summing Cheap Sex Dolls
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(31 People Likes) What are the disadvantages of being born in India?
possible. However despite all the mentioned points, I love my country and cannot imagine being born anywhere else.
Corruption. From the national leaders, the top bureaucrats to the policemen and lowly clerks, everyone is corrupt. I’d say almost everyone is corrupt. Money is leeched out of our country in hordes each passing day, money which should have been spent to develop our country further, reduce poverty and combat other serious perils faced by India.
Lack of dependability. You just cannot expect the police/fire department to be there on time. If something takes 10 days to complete, it gets completed in 50 days here.
Lack of national pride. We hate our country for so many things. And its easy since there’s precious few to love about India at the moment. Indians however love everything to do with the west. We think its paradise on earth. Umreeca, kanneda and englaaaand, the top three nations where Indians love to go and settle. And yes, they live there and yet cannot pronounce the names properly.
Inter religion hate. Yes this is still prevalent in most parts of the nation. Parents teach their children to hate followers of other religions. We do not accept people from other religions so easily. For example, lets say you want to rent a room in an upscale metro in India. There’s a huge chance you may be rejected for being from another religion, eating meat, being a north eastern etc. Yes we discriminate our own fellow citizens too. And this is hammered into our brains throughout our childhood by a variety of jokes and stories.
We know less about our country than the west. We probably could name more American states than Indian ones. We hardly know about our country’s leaders etc.
Our education system is, rather was too rigid. We were taught a lot of things, mostly facts, which are of little use. And we never gained practical experience. Its all theory here. Our teachers aren’t up to the mark, our syllabus is way outdated, we don’t have facilities like projectors etc. We still had a brilliant education system. It might be based on rote learning, yet it gained amazing results. Now copying the west, like we always do, we’ve began the process of reducing our education system to a much less demanding and a more student friendly system where everyone participates and learns through doing. Balls that would work, i had exams at the end of each semester. I did nothing throughout the year except those ten days of exams each semester. That system works brilliantly in India. We do not have the resources like those of the developed countries to implement their education system here. And why do we even want that system, we were much better off i’d say.
We learn to shy away from responsibility. Read my previous points. I always blamed the government, the system and never myself. We excel in blaming others. The politicians are corrupt and hence our country cannot progress. Well that’s essentially true, but its because of us that they’re corrupt. Our country isn’t dirty because of the govt, its because we, myself included throw trash on the ground rather than in a bin.
Costly Health Care. Too many people, too few doctors. Obtaining medical degree a nightmare. You can see where i’m going with this.
Values. Balls to your so called values. That’s what i would like to say to so many of the values and traditions the upper generation keep on forcing upon me. They were relevant in your time, not mine, so please back off. A few of them are actually good though. But most are way to rigid for the 21st century.
The huge disparity between the have and the have-nots. Now imagine we go for lunch and a movie in Delhi (the capital city, my city). The movie would cost about 200-300 bucks in a decent hall. The popcorn plus snack about 150. Lets round it off to 370 bucks. Now lunch. Even McDonalds, the cheapest of the proper restaurants would cost about 150-200 bucks minimum. Let the total be 550 bucks. Take 50 for travel, though autorickshaw rates have jacked up a lot recently. Let the total be 600 bucks, and here i’m low-balling as much as possible. There are people who support huge families with wages like 30 bucks a day. That too on days they can actually find jobs. That’s 900 bucks for a whole family for a whole month. Taking one dollar to be 60 bucks, thats like 15 USD. Good luck surviving on that. Yet people survive. And it sickens me when i think of how rashly i spend money when people live in such situations.
Its sucks being a girl here. Its sucks being a guy too, but i think females have it way worse. From female infanticide to dowry (a tradition where the brides family gifts the grooms family exorbitant sums of money, jewellery, automobiles etc for no apparent reason), girls have it worse. Plus many parents don not believe in wasting money to educate their daughters. So many families want their sons to marry a well educated girl, but she should not work after marriage. Then comes the crimes against women. They’re alarmingly high and sometimes really nasty. We suck. I don’t know what goes in a molester/rapists’ mind, and so i cannot fathom why they do it. But we seriously need to combat these crimes so that our cities and towns become safe for women.
Bullshit customs like honor killings. Basically the village/town community decides to kill their own kin because they dared to fall in love. I don’t get it either. But this happens a lot. And there are so many other creepy disturbing customs too.
We don’t care. If the country is dirty, we’ll make a fuss on earth day, and then the next day throw trash on the ground. If a stranger needs help, balls to them, we’ve got our own problems. Our country is in a pathetic state at the present moment and we just don’t care.
We spend more on marriages than probably the entire education, school, college, post grad, everything combined. Yet we bargain for amounts as less as a buck from the local vegetable vendor. I mean just give the poor guy that buck.
Social Reservations in schools, colleges, govt jobs and now if i’m not wrong even promotions in govt jobs. So basically if you’re a prime idiot belonging to a caste of supposed lower standing, you get into a good school easily, an awesome college with virtually no hard work, you get a great job, and you even get fucking promoted. Welcome to India. People say reservation is done to uplift the poor societies, then make it a fucking economic reservation rather than a social one. We have, actually had an exam called the AIEEE. The All India Engineering Entrance Exam. Its the exam with the highest participants, about one million each year (We love engineering here). Most decent colleges get over by rank 40k. But wait, those are only the general category seats. We still have a plethora of reserved seats to fill with lesser rank people just because they belong to some caste. So a 42k guy might not get a seat, but some 500k guy would. God bless our nation.
We face a lot of racism when we go abroad. But its not like we don’t reciprocate. We complain on end about the excessive racism we face outside yet are completely oblivious to our own racist deeds.
We don’t have many of the facilities provided in the west, It sucks sometimes, but we manage. We’re very good at jugaad, basically getting our work done someway or the other.
Too much population. It equates to too much competition. You have to be the best among the best. Or you’re just another average guy. That’s the harsh fact of life.
Lastly and mostly importantly, there is no security here. I’m not talking about security against robbers etc, that’s also not there, but i digress. If you fail in life, go to your family, if they can’t support you, neither will the state. You’ll go hungry and die unless you find a job. you cannot depend on the country to take care of you. This is why Indians save up a lot. When hard times come, we have to be well prepared.
Every country faces problems, India faces more than its share of problems, yet its a brilliant country to grow up in. We may complain against our nation all day long, but deep down e
